Adversity is the grinding wheel of life;
Either we’re sharpened or dulled-
Depending on the angle of our attitude
Things aren’t always as they appear… Misunderstandings happen all the time. But the more perceptive we aim to be, the less likely we are to misunderstand.
Fortunately for me, I had enough perception to understand the abundance I still possessed even in the midst of the greatest misfortune of my life.
Even when I apparently “Lost it All”, I still perceived the abundance I had- as I turned my losses into gains, heartbreak into discovery and the negative void into positive space.
Take a look at this story to see what I’m taking about:
Coping with Loss
Picking up the pieces of a shattered life is an overwhelming sorrow, but there is always something redeemable if we are not too jaded to recognize it.
Having some monumental misfortunes and grave failures under my belt, I always managed to find gems among the ashes, which gave my precarious life purpose beyond just an object lesson of what not to do. Somehow, I was able to count my gain, rather than just count my losses. No matter what I was doing, whether succeeding or failing, I was ultimately continuing to succeed on many levels.
Holding fast to a positive attitude is imperative for this, but ultimately, I attribute this to the providential care of God’s grace; keeping me from the snare of cynicism and venom of a fatalistic philosophy.
There I was with a dying marriage, an ailing business, house in forclosure, ruined credit and a massive amount of mental and emotional trauma for everyone…
I had envisioned a much different kind of legacy; enjoying life collecting sweet memories together forever. But this was a catastrophic train wreck where the dead were better off than the maimed survivors!
What I did, was completely counter-intuitive.
I thanked and praised God for the abundance I still possessed!
Now don’t get me wrong, I still grieved, but, at the same time, I clearly recognized the wealth I still held; the blessings of my adversity, the new opportunities my losses presented and thekind of internal riches that can never be lost.
Turning the negative void into positive space, enabled me to make a complete paradigm shift and rebuild my life with a much stronger foundation than before, so to design and remodel a life with far more room and possibilites! It was an opportunity to start anew, but with much more strength and wisdom than I previously had.
The Blessings of Adversity
It’s interesting how different people handle adversity differently. Some come out on the other side better while others come out bitter.
When one becomes closely associated with their internal wealth, the adversities of external circumstances will only cause temporary discomfort, but not destruction. They will always see the silver lining and capitalize on the blessings of adversity and turn failure into success. When someone like this passes through the fire, they will not be burned, but refined like the purest gold.
People like this know there is wisdom in suffering; their adversity has a purpose and even benefits their soul.
They can say, “My suffering builds my character, my folly teaches me wisdom, difficult people exercise my diplomacy, tragedy aligns my perspective, travail refines my heart and dark times test my faith”.
This kind of person may fall several times, but they always get back up and keep running, and no matter how many times they lose- they will win!
For this I am thankful for the blessings of adversity and all its abundance of benefits. For it has served as God’s crafting tools to refine, temper and polish me into a masterpiece of inmeasurable worth!
“My brethren, count it all joy when you meet various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance, And let endurance have its full effect that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.” James 1:1-2
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